~by Ling Wong~
When was the last time you ask your business – “hey what do you want?” Have you ever checked in with it to see if you are taking actions that are in alignment with its vision?
When you feel stuck or uninspired, when you are spinning your wheel or feel like you have created a j.o.b. for yourself, have you considered the possibility that your actions may not be in alignment with what your business wants?
A business birthed out of your passion, vision, and conviction has a life of its own.
It has a purpose and in a way, you are the steward of this bigger picture.
We put all these demands on our businesses – make money, live my lifestyle, make me famous, give me expert status, increase my visibility, find me followers… do this, do that, run around, jump, shovel the snow…
Hey business, can you be like all these other businesses – have this many clients, a list of that many people, go please everybody and do that JV thing, launch 5 programs a year, have this passive income bit to make money while I sleep, get me on stage, publish a book, do a podcast and send me on vacation 3 months a year? A glass of wine while you are at it.
Poor business, it can’t rebut you – “Hey, that’s not what I want!” “ That is not my fullest expression!” “This may look good on paper but it’s not a reflection of our Truth.”
If your business were a person, would she be resentful if you just go ahead and do a bunch
of things to/for/about her without first asking – ‘hey, is that cool with you’?
Do you often get into the do-do-do mode, stuck in the comparison trap and trapped by the bright shiny object syndrome?
Do you impose your ego and other people’s “should’s” on your business without first checking in to see what is really going to serve the big picture? What would your business say if you run your decision by her first?
Your business, birthed out of your passion, vision, and conviction is a sacred place.
It is bigger than your ego.
Don’t let your ego violate the boundary of this precious place. Defend it.
Your business cannot speak for itself – but you can listen intently and respectfully. It does not throw a tantrum like a 2 year old, but it will tell you when things are off – perhaps even more loudly.
Usually when things stall, when you stop feeling inspired, when you are stuck, when you spin you wheels, when you feel like you are doing a j.o.b., when you lose the FIRE you once had – you are not listening.
Misalignment between the business’ vision & purpose and the outward expression of actions creates a fracture through which time, money and energy leak. (Money leak also means money not coming in.)
Unfortunately, very often, our solution is doing more, pushing through it, googling for the magic bullet that promises to fix all your ailments.
More often than not, these frantic actions cause you to look further and further away from your own resourcefulness and knowingness, widening the gap of the misalignment.
Only if we put our ego’s fears and insecurities aside, and just listen. shhhhhh, shut the hell up and just listen.
Feel the resentment caused by following the “should’s” or the need to please everyone at the expense of our boundary, kicks in. Check in to see what it wants. Ask what you need to do to get it back on track and reignite the FIRE.
Listen and follow the instructions – the answer may surprise you.
If you “get” something you think is “crazy” because it’s “not done that way” – don’t dismiss it. If it’s not something someone else planted in your head from the external world, something somewhere deep within YOU is sending you a message.
You may have to go deep and dark so you can stop looking around and start listening. This darker place is part of you and it won’t bite.
The dark, heavy energy that comes with this introspection may be harder to swallow as it is not pleasurable as “love and light” but it is not a bad thing – it is part of the complete human experience.
When it is pitch black, you don’t see “obstacles” in the form of preconceptions,
limiting beliefs and conclusions – you are left with a vast field of possibilities.
BE That Space.
And trust that the possibilities will give you the light to come out of the darkness.
The first time you go there, it will be scary. The next time, you know what to expect. The fifth time, you know how to navigate.
It’s just like yoga. After the first side, you know what to expect on the second side. As you practice more, you go deeper and open up more – even though it may still hurt, or still trigger things in us, it’s not “scary” anymore because you know how to navigate the experience, you know when to push and when to back off.
Meet the Author: Ling Wong
Ling is the Business Artist + Mindset Provocateur at business-soulwork.com. She helps Gutsy Women Entrepreneurs nail their Messages, claim their Superpowers and muster up the Guts to monetize their Truth so they can build a purposeful Personality-Driven business.
Ling helps her clients supercharge their actions not only through smart strategies and practical tools, but also through their personal growth and development. Through her “left brain meets right brain” approach, Ling helps her clients tap into their intuition and ground those light bulb moments with practical strategies and marketing tactics to build a profitable and sustainable business that is a full expression of themselves.
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