Define Your Own Success
Only you can define what success means for yourself. Whether it is money, title, or job responsibilities, or simply getting through the day in one piece, you have to define your own success. Only you really know what you would like to do, and what excites you. Others may see what you do from the outside, but they have little or no idea what it took to get those things done. They also have no idea how much joy or despair those things brought you.
Your manager can’t define success for you. Neither can your spouse, your children, or your parents.
I frequently find myself asking my team what they consider success, and where they want to go. It’s usually after they’ve come to me asking me a question about careers, or we’re having a career discussion. It’s not unusual to get a completely blank look. I’ve done this to my manager, or played coy too, not wanting to admit what my definition of success is. Unfortunately, other people are not mind readers, and it’s impossible to make forward progress if others do not know what your intentions are. I’ve had to learn that the hard way, too.
So, decide what you want for yourself. Set some goals. Begin With the End in Mind. Be the master of your own destiny, and all that. You have to decide exactly how you define your own success. Define it, and make a plan to get there.