Kids...One of the comments I hear from women over and over again who don’t work outside the home is that they are “just a mom”.  Please, let me be clear, you aren’t “just a mom”.  You are serving an integral role in society raising your children, volunteering at their schools and at your church, and being a part of society.  It almost feels like beating someone into the ground when you talk to someone who is a stay at home mom, and they say that they are “just a mom”.  Let’s talk about what “just a mom” does:

“Just a Mom”?

  1. Budgeting – Managing the financial balance between all of the kids’ extracurricular activities, and the needs of the household, including groceries, home repair, and wardrobes for those ever-growing kids.
  2. Taxi driving- You probably put gazillions of miles on your car, driving those kids back and forth to school, doctor’s appointments, and activities.  This can likely take hours each day.
  3. Managing Complex Schedules – I don’t know about your house, but some days require a degree in logistics between drop-offs and pick ups.  Chances are, if you’re “just a mom” you don’t have someone who helps you do this like I do.
  4. Managing a house, keeping it clean, laundry done, meals cooked, and food in the pantry- Let’s be honest.  Laundry for a family of 4, 5, or 6 can take a couple of hours a day.  Never mind folding, and putting it away.  Cooking meals, keeping kids fed, and keeping a house clean also all take time.  Most of my friends who are stay at home moms don’t have additional help with their household chores.
  5. Volunteer in the community – Most moms I know, volunteer quite a bit in the community.  Maybe not all, but if you factor in how much time their other activities take, and add in the hours of being a classroom parent, reader in the classroom, or volunteer at church, many times it is nearly a full time job in itself.

I think that it’s important to have respect for everyone, and appreciate that we all come to the table with different abilities.  Dads, and men- this goes for you too.  Just because someone has opted to leave the workforce to stay home with their children does not make them less of a person.  Please don’t assume that when you meet me that since I do a gazillion, bazillion other things that I’m going to look down on you for choosing a different path.  We’re all wired differently, and that’s part of what is so much fun in life- being different!

What do you think?  Can we be at peace with one another, and quit making negative comments about people who make different decisions?