Why Pretend?

I recently picked up the book “I don’t know how she does it”, and after only a couple of chapters, had to put it back down again.  I was seriously annoyed.  One of the first chapters in there, she’s describing being up until ungodly hours of the morning making store bought pies look like home-made.  I thought to myself “Why pretend to be something she’s not?”

As I thought about it some more, I thought about how many women I know who spend a lot of time pretending to be something they’re not, because of the ridiculous notion that women have to be perfect at everything.  They have to be perfect bakers, home-makers, craft whizzes, and awesome with a set of tools, while taking care of their kids, and holding down a full time job.  That’s just plain nonsense, yet I know so many women trying to live up to that image, and I wonder why.  What is the real point of pretending to be awesome at something you hate?  Not everyone loves to cook, sew, clean house, or is even very good at them.  That doesn’t make them a bad person.  It doesn’t make them less of a person.

I spend a lot of time making a point of being exactly who I am.  Good at some things.  Not so good at others.  I may decide one day to be Betty Crocker, and the next day, I may be allergic to the kitchen, because I’ve got more pressing matters going on in my life.  Frankly, when my back is against the back, and I’m dealing with yet another parental emergency, that pie that was baked by Scratch bakery in Durham tastes every bit as good as the one I spent 3 hours slaving over.  It may not have the same satisfaction of having done it, but it still tastes plenty good, and it was one less thing that I had to actually do.

I think that occasionally buying pies, or sending store bought cookies in shows my kids that there are multiple different ways of approaching a situation, and you have to decide which one is right for you at that point in time, but none of them are wrong.  There is no sense in pretending to do everything all of the time.  It’s something that I gave up a while ago.  It’s not worth the energy or time-cycles to even worry about.  It encourages our kids and families to make the best use of our time, and not spend time worrying over silly stuff.  After all, a lot of it is silly stuff.



All Categories

Business Operations

Entrepreneur Interviews

Marketing, Networking, & Social Media

Self Care & Personal Development

Working Moms

Business Software and Technology

Entrepreneurship & Small Business

Organizing Tips


Career Building

Family Businesses


Starting Your Own Business

Work-Life Balance


Hiring Help

Management & Leadership

Time Management & Priorities

Women in Leadership

Recent Posts

Business Blogging 101: How to Create and Sustain a Successful Blog

Business Blogging 101: How to Create and Sustain a Successful Blog

For businesses, business blogging is becoming a powerful tool to not only attract and engage new customers but also to build brand authority and ultimately grow your brand.
This comprehensive guide will equip you with the essential knowledge and strategies you need to start and succeed in the dynamic world of business blogging.

How to Protect Your Merchandise From Theft

How to Protect Your Merchandise From Theft

Protecting your merchandise from theft is a critical aspect of running a successful business. In a world where security threats are ever-present, safeguarding your inventory is essential. Not only does it protect your bottom line, but it also ensures the safety of...

Experts You Need to Have at Your Business

Experts You Need to Have at Your Business

In the dynamic world of business, having the right team of experts is not just beneficial; it is essential for success and growth. For female leaders who are carving out their paths in business, marketing, or HR, knowing which experts to have on board can make a...

7 Tips for Asserting Yourself as a Woman in a Medical Workplace

7 Tips for Asserting Yourself as a Woman in a Medical Workplace

As a woman in a medical workplace, you have a lot of responsibility, not just to yourself but to other women who will come along after you. Asserting yourself in your workplace and gaining the respect of other employees and leadership is essential to a successful career. You have worked hard to get where you are, you don’t want to lose momentum.

Continue to grow with online leadership training and more. Follow these tips to assert yourself in the medical workplace.